Now that I’m nearing my mid-30s, I like to think I’m older (not that much, though!) and wiser than I was in my 20s. When I look back on the past, there are things I would’ve done differently.
And there are minor regrets like those bellbottom polyester pants I thought were so awesome but now cringe at the thought of.
And then there was that awful time I over plucked my eyebrows and looked like I had singed them off! Yikes! As uncool as these moments were, what I want to share with past Maia are more big-picture items.
Live in the Now
I don’t know about you, but during my 20s I was so focused on where I was headed — so much so that I forgot to enjoy the present. I was just so focused on the destination and hardly paid attention to the journey.
Being destination-obsessed lacks clarity as well, meaning at times these goal-focused ambitions weren’t always right for me. Sometimes you want so much to be doing something, that even when it’s wrong, you don’t quite see it.
Even now when I think about all those years, it’s such a blur. I wish I would’ve taken the time to just enjoy the moment.
Maybe now in my 30s, I can take some time to smell the roses — as cliché as that sounds. 😉
Be Willing to Adapt
Anyone who knows me knows I love to plan! I am a type-A person. I love knowing where I am and how much more I have to go until I reach the finish line.
How many times in your life have you planned everything so well just to have it go off course? And when this happens, it’s difficult for you to adjust? Yeah, me too.
This was a big struggle in my younger years, but I’d be lying if I said I’ve overcome that and handle change like a pro. My husband is the complete opposite, and I always envy his ability to adapt when plans change.
When life throws you a curve ball, take a step back, breathe, and reevaluate how you’re going to keep going. These changes don’t mean you have failed and won’t achieve success; they simply mean it may take you longer (or a different route) to get there.
Enjoy your time with your husband before kids
I loooove my children! They are the reasons I get up every morning and continue doing what I do, but I wish I would’ve basked in the moment of us as husband and wife before we became Daddy and Mommy.
I wish I would’ve appreciated being able to eat in peace, not having to cut up someone’s food, trying to finish a meal while also being a waiter, being able to go to the store without taking 15 minutes to get everyone ready.
Yes, those were the good ‘ole days. As parents, your whole day is all about these tiny humans that your own needs and your spouse’s needs get pushed aside.
It’s important to nurture your relationship with your spouse. A life of happiness will surely stem from a healthy relationship with your better half.
Friendships are important
It saddens me that I no longer have those close friends like I once did. Daily life got so busy that we stopped making time for one another and now we’re practically strangers.
Sure, we get together once in awhile, but even those occasions are few and far between.
And now making friends is hard. Remember when you were in elementary school and all it took was sharing your crayons to make a new friend? How cute and easy was that?
It’s important to have close friends to share happiness, sadness, and frustrations with. As great as our husbands are, there’s nothing like sharing yourself with someone who completely understands where you’re coming from.
People who don’t appreciate you aren’t worth your time
Why do we waste so much of our time trying to impress people who don’t care about us?
I spent a lot of my time trying to change myself and be someone different. Somehow I felt the person I already was wasn’t good enough. And of course it didn’t matter that no matter how much progress I made, these people’s opinions of me didn’t change.
I didn’t realize that I already was pretty great.
So if someone doesn’t appreciate you for you, move on. They’re not worth your time. You’ll find your tribe of people who truly know and appreciate your awesomeness.
As great as it is to be receiving love, don’t forget to give it back too!
Knowing and Growing
I know it’s bad to live with regrets, but I believe it’s important to acknowledge them so you can improve for tomorrow.
Isn’t that what life is? Always making improvements from what was? Nobody has all the answers, and we’re all just making it up as we go along. At least we know more today than we did yesterday.
As for my past, I can acknowledge that I made mistakes and learn from them. I can promise to do better tomorrow and give myself grace if I don’t live up to those promises.
And what about you? What is something you would tell your younger self?